Mental Showdowns: Arguments In Your Head

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Do you ever argue with people…in your head? Some of these “mental showdowns” are with perfect strangers you haven’t even spoken to yet. For example, you receive a cell phone bill with an outrageous charge or your insurance company didn’t cover the amount you expected. There’s often an anticipation that they will give you a…

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A Society of “What’s-Nexters”


“What’s-Nexting” is that point during the conversation when someone asks about what’s next for you in your life.  Have you met anyone special yet? When are you two getting engaged?  Have you set the wedding date?  When are you having a child?  When are you having your next child? Are you done having kids?  What…

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Are You Having a Bad Day?

Stressed out Bad Day

I recently re-read Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst.  It is a wonderful story, and its appeal to children and adults alike (I actually bought it for my husband back when we were dating) makes it an obvious classic.  Some days it does seem like everything goes wrong.…

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Dogs are Goose Poop-Eating Sages


  Lola and Jude are considered our first children, and have eights legs between them.  Lola is a Great Dane and Jude is a Border Collie/ Terrier/ who knows what.  My husband and I actually met each walking our respective dogs down on the shores of Lake Michigan.  They brought us together in a 101…

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The Present Moment Can Be Doing the Dishes


  Many people seem to have the understanding that being in the present moment is by nature a “happy place”. That phrase makes me think about that scene in Happy Gilmore where Adam Sandler’s dream woman is scantily clad with two pitchers of beer and his grandma is winning big at the slot machine.  A…

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My Resolution: Anita, It’s Over!


 I have a toxic relationship with Anita.  I am both dependent on her and I enable her.  I think that she serves a useful purpose in my life, yet in my heart, I know we’d be better off separated. She’s on my mind all the time, yet she rarely gets me headed in the direction…

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Saying “I’m Sorry” First CAN Feel Really Good


  Whenever I hear about a married couple discussing a fight they had years ago, I often hear a phrase related to the fact that they no longer remember what the actual fight was about.  They remember the feelings of hurt and anger, but for the life of them, they can’t tell you WHAT the…

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Our Ever Evolving Christmas Story


Our Ever Evolving Christmas Story It was four days before Christmas and we still didn’t have a tree.  It was almost to the point of forgetting the whole thing, but, “The Children! The Children!”  Keep in mind though that the children celebrating that year in our house were all under the age of two and…

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A Three-Pronged Purge into the Present


The first step involved in any change is often a good purge.  A purge that helps prepare you for a better path than the one you are on.  Like weeding out and tossing away the crap in your basement (e.g., that exercise ball you never use), this purge helps weed out some of the crap…

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  • Present Senses’ Essays

    Present Senses’ essays contain my thoughts and opinions about how I have found ways to live in the present moment more often than before. While many have written on this subject for thousands of years in thousands of different ways, my hope is that the everyday conversational language about everyday experiences will offer something unique- especially for those with children at home- to consider and possibly relate to their own lives.

    From my earliest memories onward, if I was seeking out an answer to a question, there was inevitably an explanation out there that clicked with me. If you’re looking for an answer on how to live a more stress-free and peaceful life, I truly hope these essays click with you. And even if they don’t click, I would encourage you to keep on searching for an explanation of living a more present life that works for you. There’s a reason people have been striving to live in the moment for hundreds of years- it brings peace to your life.

    To better access what I’ve written, the essays are divided up into various categories- categories that seemed to create themselves the more I wrote. "The Basics" is a good place to start and then hop around and see what else you discover.